A FEW TIPS ON HOW TO HELP YOUR CHILD SUCCEED IN THE WORLD
ENCOURAGE YOUR CHILD TO PURSUE HIS/HER OWN DREAM – NOT YOUR DREAMS.
Ask yourself are you getting your child involved in a particular activity because it is a passion of yours or because it is a passion of their own.
Children very often need a bit of encouragement to start a new activity, let them try as many as possible and stick with the ones they enjoy the most.
The activities they enjoy are the ones they feel most comfortable doing, not necessarily the ones they are best at. It is vital they enjoy the activity to feel confident and happy in themselves. More often than not if they enjoy the activity they will get better and better at it.
DON’T BOAST ABOUT YOUR CHILDS TALENTS
Don’t boast about your child’s talent because it could alienate him/her.
It is ok to acknowledge your child’s talents, but it is also important to let your child be a normal kid. Your children need to interact with their peers on the same level so that he/she can develop friendships. If your child is always pointed out for being very talented, other children may be intimidated, jealous or they even might make fun of your child for being different. It is important to let your child develop and flourish on their own, at their own pace.
CREATE A PEER GROUP FOR YOUR CHILD
Get your child involved with other children his/her age, other children that like to do what he/she does so your child can create a peer group. It is important that your child has peers that are his/her friends, and this is especially important at school, where your child spends most of his/her time.
If your child excels at a particular sport or musical instrument, encourage that talent, but also make sure your child is being exposed to many activities and meets many different children. It is important that your child spends time playing and just being a kid, and not always alone with the hobby.
Don’t over-schedule your child and bombard them with a million different activities, because this can have negative results.
SOCIALIZE YOUR CHILD
It is important your child has the best chance to succeed in the world, and a way to do this is to make sure your child is socialized for the real world.
Do they know how to make friends?
Do they know how to share?
Do they know how to adapt to situations as they arise?
Make sure your child is prepared for the world outside of your house and outside of their hobby.
GIVE THEM A SENSE OF INDEPENDENDCE
You cannot shelter your child from the real world forever. If you fear leaving your child for a period of time, ask yourself why and if that is a valid reason.
Children are going to fall down, they are going to hurt themselves if their parents are around or they are not. This is a normal part of growing up. Children need to know what this is like, so they can adapt when it happens, especially if their parents are not around.
Why do they need to develop a sense of independence?.
What’s going to happen if something happens to you?
What’s going to happen if she is in the schoolyard, on the playing field, in the park and she has to negotiate with peers and friends and teams, without you?
If you are always hovering over your child, you rob them of a sense of self-mastery, a sense of competency.
Children want nothing more than to spend time with their parents but it is our job as parents to prepare them to socialize with others on their own. To give them the tools to help them to succeed in the world they live in, to give them the confidence to have that sense of belonging, give them a positive, healthy self-esteem. Nurture your child and help them to be ‘the best they can be’.
They are born an original, help them to have the confidence and self esteem to stay an original.