Has your house become a warzone in the mornings?
Is everyone running around ready to explode?
Do the stress levels reach peak point just before you head off on the school run?
Welcome to the world of School Mayhem.
Whether it is a 5 year old starting Primary School or a 13-year-old starting Secondary School or a 17-year-old heading into Leaving Cert, this is a very stressful time in most households.
There can be many reasons for the increased stress levels in the house in the mornings:
Not being organized enough – lunches, uniforms, school books ready, sports gear ready, hairbrushes readily available (can cause an untold amount of stress amongst the females)
Nothing for the lunches
Missing school books
Not getting up on time
That feeling of Groundhog Day! You are not alone. There are thousands of frazzled mums (dads/careers) standing in the kitchen before the school run wishing they were anywhere else. Thinking back to that weekend break with the girls, wondering what happened to their lives, trying and often failing to stay calm with their kids.
Definition of Sanity
The quality or condition of being sane; soundness of mind. Soundness of judgment or reason.
Remaining sane at all times with our kids is impossible. When the buttons have been pushed for the 100th time in a day, our sanity may come into question.
Tips to help parents remain as sane as possible!
o Get the kids to have their own school bags ready the night before.
o All sports gear should be sorted the night before
o Lunches (where possible) prepared the night before.
o Uniforms on the bed for the younger ones and older ones have their own uniforms ready the night before.
o Have a rota for the bathroom if there are more than 2/3 kids.
o Insist the grumpiest in the mornings does not speak.
o Ensure everyone is getting enough sleep (all digital devices out of bedrooms at a certain time-most important of all).
o Those suffering from hormones (including Mum) try not to interact/react with the others.
o Get up 10 minutes earlier if necessary
There are many ways we can help to alleviate the morning madness and they all work. In an ideal world we would do this every day, but in reality, even a few changes can have a huge impact.
Parents, learn the art of deep breathing – it does work. Try to think before you react – easier said than done, but it is possible.
Event + Reaction = Outcome
How we react as parents will give us the outcome – we have the power to calm things down or to add fuel to the fire. Try it once, after one of them has pushed your buttons for the 10th time, breath, ask yourself
“Does it really matter if she brushes her hair for the 10th time, if it keeps her happy”?
“Does it really matter if her socks do not match”?
“Does it really matter if he spilt the milk again”?
Think before you react and you will be amazed at the control you have.
I strongly believe if the Mum (dad/career) is in a good place, the rest of the house will follow.
That is why mums need to take care of themselves and their headspace, to function as a ‘sane’ mum you need to feel sane and that is not always easy!
Don’t beat yourself up – parenting is the hardest job you will every have, but, also the most rewarding. Every time you think you have a handle on it, the goalposts change.
Parenting is an ongoing learning process – ask for help/advice if you feel it could benefit yourself or your children. A little piece of advice can make all the difference.
“Through the blur, I wondered if I was alone or if other parents felt the same way I did – that everything involving our CHILDREN was painful in some way. The emotions, whether they were joy, sorrow, love or pride, were so deep and sharp that IN THE END they left you raw, exposed and yes, in pain. The human heart was not designed to beat outside the human body and yet, each child represented just that – a parent’s heart bared, beating forever outside its chest.”
“We cannot always build the future for our youth, but we can build our youth FOR THE FUTURE.”
“Never fear spoiling children by making them too happy. Happiness is the atmosphere in which all good affections grow” – Thomas BrayShare Blog