If your child has worked hard – be happy for them, even if their results are not what you had hoped for.
Do not pressurise your child to achieve results above their abilities; too often kids are trying to please their parents, when they are not capable of ever living up to their parents expectations.
Imagine if the people your children looked up to most in the world were never happy with them –
never proud of them:
What might this do to their self-esteem?
They may grow up unhappy
They may grow up unworthy
They may grow up feeling inadequate
They may grow up trying to find ways to please you or they may just give up trying at all
Because they didn’t live up to your expectations.
“What a child does not receive, he can seldom later give”
Be very careful of the expectations you place on your children, whether it is exams, sport, friends, social outings etc. make sure they are realistic expectations for them.
Allow your child to be himself, with his own capabilities, with his own expectations, help him to be proud of himself.
If your child does their best –
be happy for them
be proud of them
TELL THEM HOW YOU FEEL!
As hard as it is to believe, there are many children afraid to go home on exam results day – because they believe they have left their parents/careers down.
DON’T LET YOUR CHILD BE ONE OF THEM.