PRAISE THEM WHEN THEY ACHIEVE EVEN THE SMALLEST THING e.g.. Setting the table at home, keeping their room tidy, helping a younger sibling, doing well in an exam …
HELP THEM TO BUILD STRONG FRIENDSHIPS E.G. Regular play dates, give them ideas of fun games, maybe bake a cake/cinema afternoon, give them privacy with their friends, they need to know they can bring friends home and be comfortable with it.
TRY TO KEEP CORRECTIONS/REPRIMANDS UNTIL FRIENDS HAVE GONE HOME, where possible.
SHOW THEM YOU TRUST THEM (trust them until they give you a reason not to) if they want to go to the age appropriate disco, movie etc. – trust them – trust the parenting you have done to date. If they feel you don’t trust them, they have no trust to break – if they know you do trust them, they will be a lot slower to break that trust.
SET REALISTIC GOALS FOR THEM e.g.. Learning to run 3k, improving a certain subject at school, clearing out a bedroom, learning to cook….
ACTIVATE MOTIVATION by setting goals, start small and they will build from there
SET REALISTIC BOUNDARIES e.g.. No phone in bedroom at bedtime, no phone during family movies, home from social events at realistic time (taking into account what is age appropriate)
RESPECT THEIR PRIVACY – they are at an age when they need to feel they can do things without you
Jumpstart Your Confidence is now running Parenting Courses covering all aspects of parenting from birth – adolescence. There are four different courses available:
- Toddler-Pre Adolescent
- Help your child have a positive transition from Primary School to Secondary School.
- Surviving The Teenage Years
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