NOTHING – The best response is not to respond at all until you have given yourself a chance to think.
How many times do we respond immediately, only to regret it later.
When we overreact as parents – the outcome is never a good one.
Know your triggers
Notice when you are about to blow
Resist taking immediate action
Work HARD to see things from your child’s point of view
(This is not easy but will make your parenting a much more positive experience)
When you overreact – be big enough to say sorry
Children learn how to deal with their emotions by watching how we, as parents, deal with ours. If they learn temper is best, let fly, don’t think through, don’t talk about it, what will happen when they are dealing with their own emotions.
Self harm, depression, eating disorders are conditions which can very often be a result of ‘built up emotion’. Emotions that are not dealt with in a healthy, positive way.
Learning to deal with our own emotions in a healthy way, will be one of the most important lessons you will teach your children. You need to teach by example.
“You can control yourself if you really want to. If you were in a full fledged emotional temper tantrum and I knocked on your front door….. Come on! Let me tell you what, you would get control of yourself, and it would only take a few seconds.” – Joyce Myer